We sat around the table and were simply asked a question in four words that left me speechless.
What is your WHY? Why are YOU here?
I looked around the room and saw everyone shift in their seats. Their eyes looked up and they were hoping this was a rhetorical question instead of one we had to answer in front of everyone. It was just for us. The question and the answer to our why. The intention to our why and the reason we are here right now in our lives doing what we're doing. I could tell that some ladies didn't know. Some knew all too well and this wasn't the first time they had answered this question and it was hard for them to revisit it. Some never had thought about it before and just did the things they've been doing because they were told they should or had to.
Out there it's easy to get clouded with influences and reasons that may interfere with your why and your motivation daily. Someone telling you you need to lose weight because they don't know how to love themselves. Doctors shaming you for health reasons to try to get you to diet because that's all they know how to do. Relationships reasoning you into changing because they may be unhappy. Society telling us all the things that are wrong with us instead of telling us what we are doing right. But here, it's a safe space that creates a place that is easier to focus on ourselves and for what we actually want and need to continue on this journey. Everything is illuminated. A space for people that have often focused on everything else but ourselves for so long. Even if our original reason for arriving changes once we get here- then even better. Growth. Progress. Change. The right kind because we want to not because someone is telling us to. Our whys are now making it more about us and less about them. Focusing more about health and wellness instead of size and weight. I think when the why is our own reason and personal and genuine the rest will follow.
I could tell you my why but I feel like there is a sort of sacredness to it. I'm finally doing it for me and that's the strength of it all. There have been other times I've tried to lose weight for other people or reasons and it never worked. Sure, it did initially but it never stayed off. This time, it's for me and this time it's not about the weight. It's about everything else but that and that is why I know this time is different and this time is beautiful.
What is YOUR WHY? Don't worry, the question and answer is for you and you alone. Think about it. Reflect on it and cherish it. <3
Week 3 reflections:
Doing things for ourselves isn't selfish, it's actually the furthest thing from it.
There is so much pride and hope seeing other people transform before your eyes. They walk taller and faster and easier. Confidence. Mobility. Strength.
A holiday away from home is a holiday full of more gratitude for the place you miss.
Thanksgiving can be more about the food on the table. It can be about the people you're sharing the meal with, the conversations you're having and the fact we have a beautiful plate in front of us even if it's not the Thanksgiving we are used to.
Sometimes breaks and rest days are necessary. We can't be all or nothing all of the time. Take time for you so you can continue on stronger than before.
Our stories inspire others even if we aren't trying.
Mobility is a gift we have and shouldn't be taken for granted.
Self care is an act of health care.
Eat the special whole waffles for breakfast the day they’re on the menu. Enjoy them and don’t agonize over any calories after that moment.
Long catch up phone calls with friends that make you smile are necessary. So is seeing the friends that make you laugh until you cry.
Listen to people's stories. Deeply. Quietly. You'll find out more about yourself than you think.
Happiness is contagious even on the hard days.
Laughter is the best medicine especially when you didn't realize you needed it.
Finding our fitness style is an important thing- it's not all treadmills and ellipticals.
Do the things you didn't think you could do but have always wanted to do.
Our bodies want to move and get better and healthier. We just need to help them to do so.
Be good to yourself this week,